We spent last weekend at a retreat for engaged couples. It was at the historic San Lois Ray Mission in Oceanside, CA. The classes started on Friday night and went until Sunday afternoon. We were each assigned a roommate (of the same sex) and lived dormitory style. All meals were provided. The schedule was very busy and left very little time for breaks and snacks.
What is the Engaged Encounter? In their own words:
“Catholic Engaged Encounter is a weekend retreat away with other engaged couples with plenty of time alone together to plan for a sacramental marriage. It is designed to give couples planning marriage the opportunity to dialogue honestly and intensively about their prospective lives together– their strengths and weaknesses, desires, ambitions, goals, their attitudes about money, sex, children, family, their role in the church and society–in a face to face way.”
We believed that going to something like this was important for several reasons. We knew that there had to be a few important subjects that we had not discussed. We knew that this retreat would bring those to the surface and make us talk about them. We also knew that they would teach us tools to better understand each other and increase communication. We are also an interfaith couple and this retreat addresses that.
We left exhausted but glad that we went. We both believe that our marriage will be stronger, more affectionate, and more tranquil because of it.